A woman explains how she feels the pain that she sees others feeling. "Do you feel their pain, or do you feel the pain that you yourself projecting?" Byron Katie asks. The truth is that we imagine what the other person's pain is, and we feel what we are imagining. When we believe that we can actually feel their pain, it separates us from them, rather than connecting us. The discovery that our own pain is all we can really feel leaves us fully present and available for the other person. Who would you be without your story that you are feeling their pain? Pain-free, happy, and totally available when they need you—a listener, a teacher in the house, a Buddha in the house, the one who lives it.