At a recent New Year's Mental Cleanse, a young woman's inquiry about her partner's lack of vulnerability strikes a chord in the audience. Both men and women stand and give their own experiences of why men are afraid to be vulnerable. The young woman herself comes to realize that the dissatisfaction she feels may be her own unwillingness to offer what she wants to receive. "To test your vulnerability," Katie says, "is an act of courage. You have to be open to losing everything."