Self-Inquiry or Self-Denial? | The Work

Self-Inquiry or Self-Denial?

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Amanda is angry at The Work, believing that it’s keeping her from getting her needs met in her marriage. “When I think about The Work, I feel angry that I have to give up my position that I’m right that my needs are not getting met,” she says. “No matter what I think or feel, The Work leads me to invalidate it.” In the course of her discussion with Byron Katie, it becomes apparent that Amanda has misunderstood the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. “If I believe he’s not giving me enough affection, and I try to believe the opposite,” Katie says, “that’s just a con job, and we can’t con ourselves.” The value of The Work, Katie says, is in its answers. The deeper the investigation, the clearer the answers. “You don’t answer the questions to change your mind. It’s not a self-help thing. It’s an exploration to know ourselves better.” Maybe, after deep inquiry, Amanda will discover that she really isn’t getting the affection she wants from her husband. But that doesn’t leave her powerless, Katie says. Alternatives become obvious once the pre-determined agenda is set aside and the mind becomes clear. Website: Webcasts: Subscribe: Facebook: Twitter: