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You Are A Good Person

Video Description: 
Sharon feels an easy rapport with the animals and visitors at the zoo where she volunteers, but when it comes to her friends, something doesn’t click. “I don’t know what I’m doing wrong,” she says. “I do The Work daily. I just want to be a good person. I just want to laugh.” “Oh, honey,” says Katie, “you already are a good person; there’s nothing you can do about that. You don’t have a choice. And any thought that you may be believing that opposes it is going to feel like stress.” In answer to Sharon’s worry about not being invited out, Katie says that being alone can never be a bad thing as long as she loves her thoughts. And social invitations only come when necessary. “You’d be amazed at the invitations you might get that you have to say no to, and it could be you’re not quite ready for that kind of interaction. Who knows? And the animals at the zoo are lucky to have someone as quiet and lovely as you. Humans are animals too. You shouldn’t expect too much from them.” “Oh, that feels so much better,” Sharon says. “There was such a big tightness in my chest for so long. Thank you so much.”
Transcript: 
Byron Katie: Sharon, sweetheart, you want to spend a few moments? Sharon? Sharon: Do you want to hear my questions? Hi, Sharon. Yes. You’re in Canada? I’ll be quick. OK. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I don’t have anyone I can really talk to about this stuff. I love people. I just seem to scare them away. I deal so much better with strangers than people I’ve known for a while. I am alone most of the time. I don’t get invited out much. I get snapped at a lot. Getting used to it. I’ve been making progress with myself, but others is a different story. I do The Work on a daily basis and I listen to your videos every day. I just want to be a good person. I just want to love. Oh, honey. So, first, you are a good person. There’s nothing you can do about that. You don’t have a choice about that. That’s our true nature and any thought that you may be thinking and believing that opposes that, is going to feel like stress, because it’s untrue. It could never be true that you are not loved or that you are not a good person. But you know, to the believer, what I say; it’s just not going to make any difference. But to the believer who sits down and questions what they’re believing about themselves and others and the world, there can be radical mind shift in the way you see you, sweetheart, and in the world. Yes. And also, honey, you don’t need to be with us to love us. Feel that. Oh. OK. That sounds good. Isn’t that marvelous? Yeah. I mean you just don’t have to be with us to love us. That’s yours. That’s OK? Oh, that’s completely OK. It’s not about do you love me, it’s about do I love you and that’s beyond a physical body. Yeah. I experienced that. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. I always thought that because I get snapped at a lot I kind of want to tell her: Byron Katie, The Work. Also, being alone most of the time is not a bad thing when you love your thoughts. And it’s not a bad thing to be alone when you don’t love your thoughts and have inquiry, because you’re dealing with your thoughts. Love those. You don’t have to go out into the world to love people. Love your thoughts. Question them until you understand them. For me, you know, I named that love. I’m no longer at war with what I think. I understand. So, also, time alone gives you time. It can even give you a career in questioning your thoughts about you, us, the world, yourself, as you understand you to be. And good you are not invited out much and you don’t have to be invited. You can go alone. But wherever you go… I do. Yeah. Yeah. And wherever you go, you’re going to go with your mind. So, you’re never alone. Yeah. Yeah. OK. I just thought I was doing something wrong because I wasn’t getting invited out. Oh. Oh. Oh my goodness. You know, I’m invited out when I need to be. Oh. You’d be amazed at the invitations you might get that you have to say no to and it could be that you’re not quite ready for that kind of interaction too. Who knows? Oh, wow. That’s good. No, that’s good. Yeah. Because it was important to me that I needed to clear this up. Yeah. Also, you can go alone. You’re welcome to invite us and we’ll say yes and no as you need it, if you need it. Oh, OK. If you need our no, that’s what we’re going to say. If you need our yes, that’s what we’re going to say, because it’s all about you. It’s never about us. Ah. Oh, I feel so much better, hon. Oh, man. Yeah. That was really like a big tightness in my chest for so long. Well, you’re such a good person. I think maybe you’re catching up with your beautiful self. Thank you so much, hon. Oh, you’re so welcome. I volunteer at the Toronto Zoo and I love the animals and I love the people, hon. It just flows there. But when I get with people I know, it’s just, like, so tight. You know, there’s some things that are just horrendous, like if someone speaks to you, thinking you need to know what to say. Right. Right. That’s terrifying. Oh, OK. People aren’t used to just being silent and just waiting for the answer. If someone says: Katie, how are you? If I had to think about what to say, it would frighten me. But I just wait for what comes out. If someone says: How are you? I mean, it could take me a long time to answer that question honestly. So, I might just answer with: I don’t know. Oh. OK. But when I do, I’ll let you know. I’m not suggesting that you do that. I’m just suggesting that they’re going to ask you questions and any time you think, like, How are you? Where are you going? Is it fun to work here? Don’t you enjoy working here?” And all of those questions, that’s inquiry. You can just say: Yes. No. Yes. Yes. No. Whatever is your truth at the moment, but don’t put a time limit on it. By the time you find the answer they could be to the elephants and you’re still at the monkeys. So, when you’re taking your time to question it, do they not yell at you and say: What’s taking you so long? Well, if they started yelling: What takes you so long? I would just tell them the truth. It’s another question. OK. OK. So, concentrate more on what I’m doing. OK. Well, really just go within and the answer will be shown to you. Like they snap at you, just supporting you to know for yourself. Like: What’s taking you so long? Well, you know, that’s a very good question. Just be more honest with myself, right? Oh, honey, that’s what I love about inquiry. That’s what I love about The Work. We become so used to experiencing from within the answers, that all of life, all the complications in life fall away and as far as I know, all of them. I so want that for you. Just start with baby steps, you know, those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets. All of you. Those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets, that’s where I started. There’s one letter here. Gosh, we’re so over time here. There’s one: Katie, I’ve been so struck by you over the last six months. The Work has really opened my mind. My question is this: How can I do The Work in the fullness that you do it and have done it, when I haven’t had the awakening experience that you had back in 1986? OK. Here’s how: Just… Judge-Your-Neighbor. Write it down. Ask 4 questions. Turn it around. I could not give you anything more valuable than that. Sweetheart, I just loved talking to you about working in the zoo and people. That’s the thing that really impressed me. I can see you with the animals and think lucky animals to have someone so quiet and so lovely there appreciating them. And you know, humans are animals. And without the story of what you believe we think and mean when we talk, we’re just; who would you be without your story about us. And you’ve got elephants. Yeah. I know. Look what they’re teaching me. Yes, sweetheart. I thought I’d watch them so that I can try be that with humans too, right? Well, you’re in wonderful presence. You’re in wonderful company when you’re with the animals. They’re great teachers. Yes, they are. So, don’t expect too much from humans. That way your mind is more open to any hurt you may project onto us. You can just have so much fun with these Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets until finally you’re at home wherever you are and at peace. Thank you, precious. Thank you so much, hon. You’re welcome. I appreciate talking to you. And I you. Byron Katie: Sharon, sweetheart, you want to spend a few moments? Sharon? Sharon: Do you want to hear my questions? Hi, Sharon. Yes. You’re in Canada? I’ll be quick. OK. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I don’t have anyone I can really talk to about this stuff. I love people. I just seem to scare them away. I deal so much better with strangers than people I’ve known for a while. I am alone most of the time. I don’t get invited out much. I get snapped at a lot. Getting used to it. I’ve been making progress with myself, but others is a different story. I do The Work on a daily basis and I listen to your videos every day. I just want to be a good person. I just want to love. Oh, honey. So, first, you are a good person. There’s nothing you can do about that. You don’t have a choice about that. That’s our true nature and any thought that you may be thinking and believing that opposes that, is going to feel like stress, because it’s untrue. It could never be true that you are not loved or that you are not a good person. But you know, to the believer, what I say; it’s just not going to make any difference. But to the believer who sits down and questions what they’re believing about themselves and others and the world, there can be radical mind shift in the way you see you, sweetheart, and in the world. Yes. And also, honey, you don’t need to be with us to love us. Feel that. Oh. OK. That sounds good. Isn’t that marvelous? Yeah. I mean you just don’t have to be with us to love us. That’s yours. That’s OK? Oh, that’s completely OK. It’s not about do you love me, it’s about do I love you and that’s beyond a physical body. Yeah. I experienced that. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. I always thought that because I get snapped at a lot I kind of want to tell her: Byron Katie, The Work. Also, being alone most of the time is not a bad thing when you love your thoughts. And it’s not a bad thing to be alone when you don’t love your thoughts and have inquiry, because you’re dealing with your thoughts. Love those. You don’t have to go out into the world to love people. Love your thoughts. Question them until you understand them. For me, you know, I named that love. I’m no longer at war with what I think. I understand. So, also, time alone gives you time. It can even give you a career in questioning your thoughts about you, us, the world, yourself, as you understand you to be. And good you are not invited out much and you don’t have to be invited. You can go alone. But wherever you go… I do. Yeah. Yeah. And wherever you go, you’re going to go with your mind. So, you’re never alone. Yeah. Yeah. OK. I just thought I was doing something wrong because I wasn’t getting invited out. Oh. Oh. Oh my goodness. You know, I’m invited out when I need to be. Oh. You’d be amazed at the invitations you might get that you have to say no to and it could be that you’re not quite ready for that kind of interaction too. Who knows? Oh, wow. That’s good. No, that’s good. Yeah. Because it was important to me that I needed to clear this up. Yeah. Also, you can go alone. You’re welcome to invite us and we’ll say yes and no as you need it, if you need it. Oh, OK. If you need our no, that’s what we’re going to say. If you need our yes, that’s what we’re going to say, because it’s all about you. It’s never about us. Ah. Oh, I feel so much better, hon. Oh, man. Yeah. That was really like a big tightness in my chest for so long. Well, you’re such a good person. I think maybe you’re catching up with your beautiful self. Thank you so much, hon. Oh, you’re so welcome. I volunteer at the Toronto Zoo and I love the animals and I love the people, hon. It just flows there. But when I get with people I know, it’s just, like, so tight. You know, there’s some things that are just horrendous, like if someone speaks to you, thinking you need to know what to say. Right. Right. That’s terrifying. Oh, OK. People aren’t used to just being silent and just waiting for the answer. If someone says: Katie, how are you? If I had to think about what to say, it would frighten me. But I just wait for what comes out. If someone says: How are you? I mean, it could take me a long time to answer that question honestly. So, I might just answer with: I don’t know. Oh. OK. But when I do, I’ll let you know. I’m not suggesting that you do that. I’m just suggesting that they’re going to ask you questions and any time you think, like, How are you? Where are you going? Is it fun to work here? Don’t you enjoy working here?” And all of those questions, that’s inquiry. You can just say: Yes. No. Yes. Yes. No. Whatever is your truth at the moment, but don’t put a time limit on it. By the time you find the answer they could be to the elephants and you’re still at the monkeys. So, when you’re taking your time to question it, do they not yell at you and say: What’s taking you so long? Well, if they started yelling: What takes you so long? I would just tell them the truth. It’s another question. OK. OK. So, concentrate more on what I’m doing. OK. Well, really just go within and the answer will be shown to you. Like they snap at you, just supporting you to know for yourself. Like: What’s taking you so long? Well, you know, that’s a very good question. Just be more honest with myself, right? Oh, honey, that’s what I love about inquiry. That’s what I love about The Work. We become so used to experiencing from within the answers, that all of life, all the complications in life fall away and as far as I know, all of them. I so want that for you. Just start with baby steps, you know, those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets. All of you. Those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets, that’s where I started. There’s one letter here. Gosh, we’re so over time here. There’s one: Katie, I’ve been so struck by you over the last six months. The Work has really opened my mind. My question is this: How can I do The Work in the fullness that you do it and have done it, when I haven’t had the awakening experience that you had back in 1986? OK. Here’s how: Just… Judge-Your-Neighbor. Write it down. Ask 4 questions. Turn it around. I could not give you anything more valuable than that. Sweetheart, I just loved talking to you about working in the zoo and people. That’s the thing that really impressed me. I can see you with the animals and think lucky animals to have someone so quiet and so lovely there appreciating them. And you know, humans are animals. And without the story of what you believe we think and mean when we talk, we’re just; who would you be without your story about us. And you’ve got elephants. Yeah. I know. Look what they’re teaching me. Yes, sweetheart. I thought I’d watch them so that I can try be that with humans too, right? Well, you’re in wonderful presence. You’re in wonderful company when you’re with the animals. They’re great teachers. Yes, they are. So, don’t expect too much from humans. That way your mind is more open to any hurt you may project onto us. You can just have so much fun with these Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets until finally you’re at home wherever you are and at peace. Thank you, precious. Thank you so much, hon. You’re welcome. I appreciate talking to you. And I you. Byron Katie: Sharon, sweetheart, you want to spend a few moments? Sharon? Sharon: Do you want to hear my questions? Hi, Sharon. Yes. You’re in Canada? I’ll be quick. OK. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I don’t have anyone I can really talk to about this stuff. I love people. I just seem to scare them away. I deal so much better with strangers than people I’ve known for a while. I am alone most of the time. I don’t get invited out much. I get snapped at a lot. Getting used to it. I’ve been making progress with myself, but others is a different story. I do The Work on a daily basis and I listen to your videos every day. I just want to be a good person. I just want to love. Oh, honey. So, first, you are a good person. There’s nothing you can do about that. You don’t have a choice about that. That’s our true nature and any thought that you may be thinking and believing that opposes that, is going to feel like stress, because it’s untrue. It could never be true that you are not loved or that you are not a good person. But you know, to the believer, what I say; it’s just not going to make any difference. But to the believer who sits down and questions what they’re believing about themselves and others and the world, there can be radical mind shift in the way you see you, sweetheart, and in the world. Yes. And also, honey, you don’t need to be with us to love us. Feel that. Oh. OK. That sounds good. Isn’t that marvelous? Yeah. I mean you just don’t have to be with us to love us. That’s yours. That’s OK? Oh, that’s completely OK. It’s not about do you love me, it’s about do I love you and that’s beyond a physical body. Yeah. I experienced that. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. I always thought that because I get snapped at a lot I kind of want to tell her: Byron Katie, The Work. Also, being alone most of the time is not a bad thing when you love your thoughts. And it’s not a bad thing to be alone when you don’t love your thoughts and have inquiry, because you’re dealing with your thoughts. Love those. You don’t have to go out into the world to love people. Love your thoughts. Question them until you understand them. For me, you know, I named that love. I’m no longer at war with what I think. I understand. So, also, time alone gives you time. It can even give you a career in questioning your thoughts about you, us, the world, yourself, as you understand you to be. And good you are not invited out much and you don’t have to be invited. You can go alone. But wherever you go… I do. Yeah. Yeah. And wherever you go, you’re going to go with your mind. So, you’re never alone. Yeah. Yeah. OK. I just thought I was doing something wrong because I wasn’t getting invited out. Oh. Oh. Oh my goodness. You know, I’m invited out when I need to be. Oh. You’d be amazed at the invitations you might get that you have to say no to and it could be that you’re not quite ready for that kind of interaction too. Who knows? Oh, wow. That’s good. No, that’s good. Yeah. Because it was important to me that I needed to clear this up. Yeah. Also, you can go alone. You’re welcome to invite us and we’ll say yes and no as you need it, if you need it. Oh, OK. If you need our no, that’s what we’re going to say. If you need our yes, that’s what we’re going to say, because it’s all about you. It’s never about us. Ah. Oh, I feel so much better, hon. Oh, man. Yeah. That was really like a big tightness in my chest for so long. Well, you’re such a good person. I think maybe you’re catching up with your beautiful self. Thank you so much, hon. Oh, you’re so welcome. I volunteer at the Toronto Zoo and I love the animals and I love the people, hon. It just flows there. But when I get with people I know, it’s just, like, so tight. You know, there’s some things that are just horrendous, like if someone speaks to you, thinking you need to know what to say. Right. Right. That’s terrifying. Oh, OK. People aren’t used to just being silent and just waiting for the answer. If someone says: Katie, how are you? If I had to think about what to say, it would frighten me. But I just wait for what comes out. If someone says: How are you? I mean, it could take me a long time to answer that question honestly. So, I might just answer with: I don’t know. Oh. OK. But when I do, I’ll let you know. I’m not suggesting that you do that. I’m just suggesting that they’re going to ask you questions and any time you think, like, How are you? Where are you going? Is it fun to work here? Don’t you enjoy working here?” And all of those questions, that’s inquiry. You can just say: Yes. No. Yes. Yes. No. Whatever is your truth at the moment, but don’t put a time limit on it. By the time you find the answer they could be to the elephants and you’re still at the monkeys. So, when you’re taking your time to question it, do they not yell at you and say: What’s taking you so long? Well, if they started yelling: What takes you so long? I would just tell them the truth. It’s another question. OK. OK. So, concentrate more on what I’m doing. OK. Well, really just go within and the answer will be shown to you. Like they snap at you, just supporting you to know for yourself. Like: What’s taking you so long? Well, you know, that’s a very good question. Just be more honest with myself, right? Oh, honey, that’s what I love about inquiry. That’s what I love about The Work. We become so used to experiencing from within the answers, that all of life, all the complications in life fall away and as far as I know, all of them. I so want that for you. Just start with baby steps, you know, those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets. All of you. Those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets, that’s where I started. There’s one letter here. Gosh, we’re so over time here. There’s one: Katie, I’ve been so struck by you over the last six months. The Work has really opened my mind. My question is this: How can I do The Work in the fullness that you do it and have done it, when I haven’t had the awakening experience that you had back in 1986? OK. Here’s how: Just… Judge-Your-Neighbor. Write it down. Ask 4 questions. Turn it around. I could not give you anything more valuable than that. Sweetheart, I just loved talking to you about working in the zoo and people. That’s the thing that really impressed me. I can see you with the animals and think lucky animals to have someone so quiet and so lovely there appreciating them. And you know, humans are animals. And without the story of what you believe we think and mean when we talk, we’re just; who would you be without your story about us. And you’ve got elephants. Yeah. I know. Look what they’re teaching me. Yes, sweetheart. I thought I’d watch them so that I can try be that with humans too, right? Well, you’re in wonderful presence. You’re in wonderful company when you’re with the animals. They’re great teachers. Yes, they are. So, don’t expect too much from humans. That way your mind is more open to any hurt you may project onto us. You can just have so much fun with these Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets until finally you’re at home wherever you are and at peace. Thank you, precious. Thank you so much, hon. You’re welcome. I appreciate talking to you. And I you. Byron Katie: Sharon, sweetheart, you want to spend a few moments? Sharon? Sharon: Do you want to hear my questions? Hi, Sharon. Yes. You’re in Canada? I’ll be quick. OK. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I don’t have anyone I can really talk to about this stuff. I love people. I just seem to scare them away. I deal so much better with strangers than people I’ve known for a while. I am alone most of the time. I don’t get invited out much. I get snapped at a lot. Getting used to it. I’ve been making progress with myself, but others is a different story. I do The Work on a daily basis and I listen to your videos every day. I just want to be a good person. I just want to love. Oh, honey. So, first, you are a good person. There’s nothing you can do about that. You don’t have a choice about that. That’s our true nature and any thought that you may be thinking and believing that opposes that, is going to feel like stress, because it’s untrue. It could never be true that you are not loved or that you are not a good person. But you know, to the believer, what I say; it’s just not going to make any difference. But to the believer who sits down and questions what they’re believing about themselves and others and the world, there can be radical mind shift in the way you see you, sweetheart, and in the world. Yes. And also, honey, you don’t need to be with us to love us. Feel that. Oh. OK. That sounds good. Isn’t that marvelous? Yeah. I mean you just don’t have to be with us to love us. That’s yours. That’s OK? Oh, that’s completely OK. It’s not about do you love me, it’s about do I love you and that’s beyond a physical body. Yeah. I experienced that. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. I always thought that because I get snapped at a lot I kind of want to tell her: Byron Katie, The Work. Also, being alone most of the time is not a bad thing when you love your thoughts. And it’s not a bad thing to be alone when you don’t love your thoughts and have inquiry, because you’re dealing with your thoughts. Love those. You don’t have to go out into the world to love people. Love your thoughts. Question them until you understand them. For me, you know, I named that love. I’m no longer at war with what I think. I understand. So, also, time alone gives you time. It can even give you a career in questioning your thoughts about you, us, the world, yourself, as you understand you to be. And good you are not invited out much and you don’t have to be invited. You can go alone. But wherever you go… I do. Yeah. Yeah. And wherever you go, you’re going to go with your mind. So, you’re never alone. Yeah. Yeah. OK. I just thought I was doing something wrong because I wasn’t getting invited out. Oh. Oh. Oh my goodness. You know, I’m invited out when I need to be. Oh. You’d be amazed at the invitations you might get that you have to say no to and it could be that you’re not quite ready for that kind of interaction too. Who knows? Oh, wow. That’s good. No, that’s good. Yeah. Because it was important to me that I needed to clear this up. Yeah. Also, you can go alone. You’re welcome to invite us and we’ll say yes and no as you need it, if you need it. Oh, OK. If you need our no, that’s what we’re going to say. If you need our yes, that’s what we’re going to say, because it’s all about you. It’s never about us. Ah. Oh, I feel so much better, hon. Oh, man. Yeah. That was really like a big tightness in my chest for so long. Well, you’re such a good person. I think maybe you’re catching up with your beautiful self. Thank you so much, hon. Oh, you’re so welcome. I volunteer at the Toronto Zoo and I love the animals and I love the people, hon. It just flows there. But when I get with people I know, it’s just, like, so tight. You know, there’s some things that are just horrendous, like if someone speaks to you, thinking you need to know what to say. Right. Right. That’s terrifying. Oh, OK. People aren’t used to just being silent and just waiting for the answer. If someone says: Katie, how are you? If I had to think about what to say, it would frighten me. But I just wait for what comes out. If someone says: How are you? I mean, it could take me a long time to answer that question honestly. So, I might just answer with: I don’t know. Oh. OK. But when I do, I’ll let you know. I’m not suggesting that you do that. I’m just suggesting that they’re going to ask you questions and any time you think, like, How are you? Where are you going? Is it fun to work here? Don’t you enjoy working here?” And all of those questions, that’s inquiry. You can just say: Yes. No. Yes. Yes. No. Whatever is your truth at the moment, but don’t put a time limit on it. By the time you find the answer they could be to the elephants and you’re still at the monkeys. So, when you’re taking your time to question it, do they not yell at you and say: What’s taking you so long? Well, if they started yelling: What takes you so long? I would just tell them the truth. It’s another question. OK. OK. So, concentrate more on what I’m doing. OK. Well, really just go within and the answer will be shown to you. Like they snap at you, just supporting you to know for yourself. Like: What’s taking you so long? Well, you know, that’s a very good question. Just be more honest with myself, right? Oh, honey, that’s what I love about inquiry. That’s what I love about The Work. We become so used to experiencing from within the answers, that all of life, all the complications in life fall away and as far as I know, all of them. I so want that for you. Just start with baby steps, you know, those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets. All of you. Those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets, that’s where I started. There’s one letter here. Gosh, we’re so over time here. There’s one: Katie, I’ve been so struck by you over the last six months. The Work has really opened my mind. My question is this: How can I do The Work in the fullness that you do it and have done it, when I haven’t had the awakening experience that you had back in 1986? OK. Here’s how: Just… Judge-Your-Neighbor. Write it down. Ask 4 questions. Turn it around. I could not give you anything more valuable than that. Sweetheart, I just loved talking to you about working in the zoo and people. That’s the thing that really impressed me. I can see you with the animals and think lucky animals to have someone so quiet and so lovely there appreciating them. And you know, humans are animals. And without the story of what you believe we think and mean when we talk, we’re just; who would you be without your story about us. And you’ve got elephants. Yeah. I know. Look what they’re teaching me. Yes, sweetheart. I thought I’d watch them so that I can try be that with humans too, right? Well, you’re in wonderful presence. You’re in wonderful company when you’re with the animals. They’re great teachers. Yes, they are. So, don’t expect too much from humans. That way your mind is more open to any hurt you may project onto us. You can just have so much fun with these Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets until finally you’re at home wherever you are and at peace. Thank you, precious. Thank you so much, hon. You’re welcome. I appreciate talking to you. And I you. Byron Katie: Sharon, sweetheart, you want to spend a few moments? Sharon? Sharon: Do you want to hear my questions? Hi, Sharon. Yes. You’re in Canada? I’ll be quick. OK. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I don’t have anyone I can really talk to about this stuff. I love people. I just seem to scare them away. I deal so much better with strangers than people I’ve known for a while. I am alone most of the time. I don’t get invited out much. I get snapped at a lot. Getting used to it. I’ve been making progress with myself, but others is a different story. I do The Work on a daily basis and I listen to your videos every day. I just want to be a good person. I just want to love. Oh, honey. So, first, you are a good person. There’s nothing you can do about that. You don’t have a choice about that. That’s our true nature and any thought that you may be thinking and believing that opposes that, is going to feel like stress, because it’s untrue. It could never be true that you are not loved or that you are not a good person. But you know, to the believer, what I say; it’s just not going to make any difference. But to the believer who sits down and questions what they’re believing about themselves and others and the world, there can be radical mind shift in the way you see you, sweetheart, and in the world. Yes. And also, honey, you don’t need to be with us to love us. Feel that. Oh. OK. That sounds good. Isn’t that marvelous? Yeah. I mean you just don’t have to be with us to love us. That’s yours. That’s OK? Oh, that’s completely OK. It’s not about do you love me, it’s about do I love you and that’s beyond a physical body. Yeah. I experienced that. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. I always thought that because I get snapped at a lot I kind of want to tell her: Byron Katie, The Work. Also, being alone most of the time is not a bad thing when you love your thoughts. And it’s not a bad thing to be alone when you don’t love your thoughts and have inquiry, because you’re dealing with your thoughts. Love those. You don’t have to go out into the world to love people. Love your thoughts. Question them until you understand them. For me, you know, I named that love. I’m no longer at war with what I think. I understand. So, also, time alone gives you time. It can even give you a career in questioning your thoughts about you, us, the world, yourself, as you understand you to be. And good you are not invited out much and you don’t have to be invited. You can go alone. But wherever you go… I do. Yeah. Yeah. And wherever you go, you’re going to go with your mind. So, you’re never alone. Yeah. Yeah. OK. I just thought I was doing something wrong because I wasn’t getting invited out. Oh. Oh. Oh my goodness. You know, I’m invited out when I need to be. Oh. You’d be amazed at the invitations you might get that you have to say no to and it could be that you’re not quite ready for that kind of interaction too. Who knows? Oh, wow. That’s good. No, that’s good. Yeah. Because it was important to me that I needed to clear this up. Yeah. Also, you can go alone. You’re welcome to invite us and we’ll say yes and no as you need it, if you need it. Oh, OK. If you need our no, that’s what we’re going to say. If you need our yes, that’s what we’re going to say, because it’s all about you. It’s never about us. Ah. Oh, I feel so much better, hon. Oh, man. Yeah. That was really like a big tightness in my chest for so long. Well, you’re such a good person. I think maybe you’re catching up with your beautiful self. Thank you so much, hon. Oh, you’re so welcome. I volunteer at the Toronto Zoo and I love the animals and I love the people, hon. It just flows there. But when I get with people I know, it’s just, like, so tight. You know, there’s some things that are just horrendous, like if someone speaks to you, thinking you need to know what to say. Right. Right. That’s terrifying. Oh, OK. People aren’t used to just being silent and just waiting for the answer. If someone says: Katie, how are you? If I had to think about what to say, it would frighten me. But I just wait for what comes out. If someone says: How are you? I mean, it could take me a long time to answer that question honestly. So, I might just answer with: I don’t know. Oh. OK. But when I do, I’ll let you know. I’m not suggesting that you do that. I’m just suggesting that they’re going to ask you questions and any time you think, like, How are you? Where are you going? Is it fun to work here? Don’t you enjoy working here?” And all of those questions, that’s inquiry. You can just say: Yes. No. Yes. Yes. No. Whatever is your truth at the moment, but don’t put a time limit on it. By the time you find the answer they could be to the elephants and you’re still at the monkeys. So, when you’re taking your time to question it, do they not yell at you and say: What’s taking you so long? Well, if they started yelling: What takes you so long? I would just tell them the truth. It’s another question. OK. OK. So, concentrate more on what I’m doing. OK. Well, really just go within and the answer will be shown to you. Like they snap at you, just supporting you to know for yourself. Like: What’s taking you so long? Well, you know, that’s a very good question. Just be more honest with myself, right? Oh, honey, that’s what I love about inquiry. That’s what I love about The Work. We become so used to experiencing from within the answers, that all of life, all the complications in life fall away and as far as I know, all of them. I so want that for you. Just start with baby steps, you know, those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets. All of you. Those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets, that’s where I started. There’s one letter here. Gosh, we’re so over time here. There’s one: Katie, I’ve been so struck by you over the last six months. The Work has really opened my mind. My question is this: How can I do The Work in the fullness that you do it and have done it, when I haven’t had the awakening experience that you had back in 1986? OK. Here’s how: Just… Judge-Your-Neighbor. Write it down. Ask 4 questions. Turn it around. I could not give you anything more valuable than that. Sweetheart, I just loved talking to you about working in the zoo and people. That’s the thing that really impressed me. I can see you with the animals and think lucky animals to have someone so quiet and so lovely there appreciating them. And you know, humans are animals. And without the story of what you believe we think and mean when we talk, we’re just; who would you be without your story about us. And you’ve got elephants. Yeah. I know. Look what they’re teaching me. Yes, sweetheart. I thought I’d watch them so that I can try be that with humans too, right? Well, you’re in wonderful presence. You’re in wonderful company when you’re with the animals. They’re great teachers. Yes, they are. So, don’t expect too much from humans. That way your mind is more open to any hurt you may project onto us. You can just have so much fun with these Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets until finally you’re at home wherever you are and at peace. Thank you, precious. Thank you so much, hon. You’re welcome. I appreciate talking to you. And I you. Byron Katie: Sharon, sweetheart, you want to spend a few moments? Sharon? Sharon: Do you want to hear my questions? Hi, Sharon. Yes. You’re in Canada? I’ll be quick. OK. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I don’t have anyone I can really talk to about this stuff. I love people. I just seem to scare them away. I deal so much better with strangers than people I’ve known for a while. I am alone most of the time. I don’t get invited out much. I get snapped at a lot. Getting used to it. I’ve been making progress with myself, but others is a different story. I do The Work on a daily basis and I listen to your videos every day. I just want to be a good person. I just want to love. Oh, honey. So, first, you are a good person. There’s nothing you can do about that. You don’t have a choice about that. That’s our true nature and any thought that you may be thinking and believing that opposes that, is going to feel like stress, because it’s untrue. It could never be true that you are not loved or that you are not a good person. But you know, to the believer, what I say; it’s just not going to make any difference. But to the believer who sits down and questions what they’re believing about themselves and others and the world, there can be radical mind shift in the way you see you, sweetheart, and in the world. Yes. And also, honey, you don’t need to be with us to love us. Feel that. Oh. OK. That sounds good. Isn’t that marvelous? Yeah. I mean you just don’t have to be with us to love us. That’s yours. That’s OK? Oh, that’s completely OK. It’s not about do you love me, it’s about do I love you and that’s beyond a physical body. Yeah. I experienced that. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. I always thought that because I get snapped at a lot I kind of want to tell her: Byron Katie, The Work. Also, being alone most of the time is not a bad thing when you love your thoughts. And it’s not a bad thing to be alone when you don’t love your thoughts and have inquiry, because you’re dealing with your thoughts. Love those. You don’t have to go out into the world to love people. Love your thoughts. Question them until you understand them. For me, you know, I named that love. I’m no longer at war with what I think. I understand. So, also, time alone gives you time. It can even give you a career in questioning your thoughts about you, us, the world, yourself, as you understand you to be. And good you are not invited out much and you don’t have to be invited. You can go alone. But wherever you go… I do. Yeah. Yeah. And wherever you go, you’re going to go with your mind. So, you’re never alone. Yeah. Yeah. OK. I just thought I was doing something wrong because I wasn’t getting invited out. Oh. Oh. Oh my goodness. You know, I’m invited out when I need to be. Oh. You’d be amazed at the invitations you might get that you have to say no to and it could be that you’re not quite ready for that kind of interaction too. Who knows? Oh, wow. That’s good. No, that’s good. Yeah. Because it was important to me that I needed to clear this up. Yeah. Also, you can go alone. You’re welcome to invite us and we’ll say yes and no as you need it, if you need it. Oh, OK. If you need our no, that’s what we’re going to say. If you need our yes, that’s what we’re going to say, because it’s all about you. It’s never about us. Ah. Oh, I feel so much better, hon. Oh, man. Yeah. That was really like a big tightness in my chest for so long. Well, you’re such a good person. I think maybe you’re catching up with your beautiful self. Thank you so much, hon. Oh, you’re so welcome. I volunteer at the Toronto Zoo and I love the animals and I love the people, hon. It just flows there. But when I get with people I know, it’s just, like, so tight. You know, there’s some things that are just horrendous, like if someone speaks to you, thinking you need to know what to say. Right. Right. That’s terrifying. Oh, OK. People aren’t used to just being silent and just waiting for the answer. If someone says: Katie, how are you? If I had to think about what to say, it would frighten me. But I just wait for what comes out. If someone says: How are you? I mean, it could take me a long time to answer that question honestly. So, I might just answer with: I don’t know. Oh. OK. But when I do, I’ll let you know. I’m not suggesting that you do that. I’m just suggesting that they’re going to ask you questions and any time you think, like, How are you? Where are you going? Is it fun to work here? Don’t you enjoy working here?” And all of those questions, that’s inquiry. You can just say: Yes. No. Yes. Yes. No. Whatever is your truth at the moment, but don’t put a time limit on it. By the time you find the answer they could be to the elephants and you’re still at the monkeys. So, when you’re taking your time to question it, do they not yell at you and say: What’s taking you so long? Well, if they started yelling: What takes you so long? I would just tell them the truth. It’s another question. OK. OK. So, concentrate more on what I’m doing. OK. Well, really just go within and the answer will be shown to you. Like they snap at you, just supporting you to know for yourself. Like: What’s taking you so long? Well, you know, that’s a very good question. Just be more honest with myself, right? Oh, honey, that’s what I love about inquiry. That’s what I love about The Work. We become so used to experiencing from within the answers, that all of life, all the complications in life fall away and as far as I know, all of them. I so want that for you. Just start with baby steps, you know, those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets. All of you. Those Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets, that’s where I started. There’s one letter here. Gosh, we’re so over time here. There’s one: Katie, I’ve been so struck by you over the last six months. The Work has really opened my mind. My question is this: How can I do The Work in the fullness that you do it and have done it, when I haven’t had the awakening experience that you had back in 1986? OK. Here’s how: Just… Judge-Your-Neighbor. Write it down. Ask 4 questions. Turn it around. I could not give you anything more valuable than that. Sweetheart, I just loved talking to you about working in the zoo and people. That’s the thing that really impressed me. I can see you with the animals and think lucky animals to have someone so quiet and so lovely there appreciating them. And you know, humans are animals. And without the story of what you believe we think and mean when we talk, we’re just; who would you be without your story about us. And you’ve got elephants. Yeah. I know. Look what they’re teaching me. Yes, sweetheart. I thought I’d watch them so that I can try be that with humans too, right? Well, you’re in wonderful presence. You’re in wonderful company when you’re with the animals. They’re great teachers. Yes, they are. So, don’t expect too much from humans. That way your mind is more open to any hurt you may project onto us. You can just have so much fun with these Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheets until finally you’re at home wherever you are and at peace. Thank you, precious. Thank you so much, hon. You’re welcome. I appreciate talking to you. And I you.