“How can I have a loving and mutually respectful relationship with my twenty-year-old son when I find him impossible to live with?” Alison asks Byron Katie. She says she is hurt because her son refuses to talk to her.
Once she begins to question her thoughts, with Byron Katie’s guidance, she realizes that she has been interpreting her son’s silence as hatred, rejection, and proof she’s failed as a mother. “We become angry,” Katie says, “when we think that our children are supposed to listen to us. Thoughts like this could use some questioning. Are we listening to us? Are we listening to them?”