The Work is the most simple, elegant and powerful tool for Self-realization that I ever experienced after forty years of seeking. Throughout my adult life, I would have moments—even days—of transcendence, but I always “fell back” to earth. The Work shows me that earth—right where I am—is the ground where my freedom is found. It is ever humbling and liberating, and words could never express my gratitude for Byron Katie and The Work. What I can do is share The Work with anyone who is open to it and the truth it reveals that all suffering comes from an unquestioned mind.
As a young woman I absorbed the belief I had heard repeatedly about “the harsh realities of life”. Since I began doing The Work, I’ve been steadily unwinding the thoughts that support that belief. Confusion is replaced with clarity as The Work grounds me with a trustworthy tool to consistently identify and question stressful thoughts. And I notice when I facilitate clients, there are no new stressful thoughts and that their stories have been mine.
I was naturally happy and carefree as a child until the early 70s, which were turbulent years as I sometimes sought truth through a fog of drugs. Then I lived for 20 years in a spiritual community which supported me with some healthy boundaries, until, with my husband and children, we were ready to be on our own.
My world bottomed out in 2008 when my then sixteen-year-old daughter was diagnosed with depression while away at boarding school. I was terrified and felt deep guilt, shame and helplessness. I did the best I could and then The Work came to me early in 2009 through the book A Thousand Names for Joywhich led me to one of Katie’s seminars. As I learned to inquire, I began to live more fearlessly and trust that I could consistently find the answers I needed through inquiry. My life began to change rather miraculously because I got out of other people’s business and concentrated on finding out what my business is (a basic premise of The Work). All my relationships improved, most notably the one with my precious daughter. I got very clear that all I really care about is having the privilege to love her. Period. I am continuously discovering a new way to live, and that old pervasive fear and confusion is being steadily replaced with love and compassion for myself and others. I am learning a way to live without believing the mind’s judgments—trusting that even though I can’t always feel it, there is an underlying existence that is pure kindness.
“There is a field out there beyond right-doing and wrong-doing. I will meet you there.” —Rumi. That field is love, and The Work has given me more courage to trust that my true nature is love and so is everyone else’s! As I learn to love myself, I am able to love others more.
Some major areas of life that I have worked on include anger, impatience, creativity, spirituality, relationships, family, aging, and addictions including alcohol, food, pleasure and pain. I experience The Work of Byron Katie to be the creation of a field of unconditional love in which transformation can occur.
I would love to do The Work with you if you feel drawn to me. The Work is my passion and I would be honored to support you in identifying your stressful thoughts and beliefs (recurring thoughts) to take to inquiry, guiding you through the four questions and turnarounds, while holding the space for your answers to arise from within you. The Work can be intense and cathartic (as well as joyful and liberating!) and I simply hold you in your process and bring you back when you stray. I have come to see that reality is kind—it is the substratum of this dream of life. And I notice that what were once challenging situations become opportunities for awareness. What were once problems become signposts to show me where my Work is. I honor your courage in taking the inner journey through the labyrinth of the unquestioned mind to discover existence beyond identification with thought. As Katie puts it, “A questioned mind drops into its sweet home in the heart”. Welcome to The Work!