Milena Mlakar

When I was four, I had a profound experience of bliss, a »near death experience«. From early on I didn’t feel I belonged to this planet. I often wished to die. I religiously believed that if I’m good, kind, and helpful enough, and if I just endure, suffering then one day life will reflect all that good back to me, the way it is in fairytales.

And in many ways it did. I had a wonderful husband, daughters, house, and garden. I was happy with them. But I had no clue how to deal with a well-paid job that I hated. I didn’t believe I could make the transition to let go of the money and have the support of my husband. I was so lost. I started to hate him for not seeing me. I left our 20-year marriage in search of the truth, while holding on to the same job. I became severely depressed. I’d beat myself up with the belief that spiritual people don’t suffer. Meditation, workshops, travelling, and my search for a soul mate became my compulsive addiction and refuge.

Katie’s book, All Wars Belong on Paper found me in 2000. The arrow hit my heart and The Work became an integral part of my life. It has been the most intimate eye opener. I started to see my blind spot. I can test it daily and use it to face reality as it is. No more running away from anxiety, fear, and naïveté. It has been the end of my »princess and the pea« story. I’ve been taking my chances and response-ability with joy.

The Work is my know-how to live now. What a freedom, willingness is! How flexible and creative an open mind! Life in gratitude and the love for all I have never really left, but found.

I invite you wholeheartedly, to test The Work and end suffering. We each play our roles in life. Do you want to move on from any of your »stage fright?« Perhaps you experience it in relationships, career, parenting, creativity or dis-ease. As deep as you go—I stay with you.

Hvaležna sem, da me je življenjska pot pripeljala do Byron Katie!

Njen Delovni zvezek »Vse vojne sodijo na papir« me je našel konec leta 2000, ko sem se znašla pred ozkimi vrati sprememb in mi ni bilo ravno lahko. Zgodba o Katie in njeni desetletni depresiji se me je še posebej dotaknila, kajti prav to »bolezen« zelo dobro poznam in dolgo nisem verjela, da zanjo obstaja pravo »zdravilo«. Ker sem pesniška duša, sem se zaljubila v Hafizov citat na prvi strani: »Pravkar sem staknil virus sreče, poljubi me.« in Katie dodaja: »Če si drzneš!« Kako si ne bi drznila.

Pri svojih štiridesetih, sem se takrat že pošteno naveličala samopomilovanja in vloge žrtve. Vsakič, ko sem zvesto izpolnjevala delovni list, sem bolj odpirala um, oči, ušesa, srce… Pa vendar sem še verjela, da so njene delavnice predrage in da ne bom več investirala v »duhovnost« in terapije. A nekje daleč v zavesti mi je glas pogosto šepetal: »Nekoč bi tole Katie rada srečala v živo« ! Zgodilo se je poleti 2007. Očitno sem rabila sedem let, da sem bila pripravljena na “bližnje srečanje tretje vrste” . Eno »na-ključ-je« je sledilo drugemu in ko sem prevajala njeno spletno stran, me je povabila v 9-dnevno Šolo v Nemčiji. Tam me je čakalo prijetno presenečenje:

Po več kot petnajst letih duhovnega iskanja (s polnim delovnim časom) in študiju psihologije, ezoterike in terapevtskih tehnik začela dvomiti v svoje delo in pomoč drugim ( hipnoza, gestalt, regresija,NLP, postavitev družine). Po eni strani mi je »bilo »vse jasno«, a sem počasi izgubljala motivacijo. Počutila sem se kot na samotnem otoku, kjer bi rada napisala le še poslednjo željo in jo poslala v steklenici (če seveda predpostavljam, da so na otoku steklenica, svinčnik in papir in bi željo sploh imela).

Preprost, jasen in učinkovit proces ( Katie ga noče imenovati »terapija«) mi je nov navdih in izziv. Iz lastne izkušnje vem, da »zdravita« le ljubezen in resnično razumevanje. Vprašanje je, če smo dovolj pogumni, prizadevni in ponižni – da bi tako tudi živeli?

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