My life before the work, simply put, was hell. I had a laundry list of hurts that I referred to as my issues: co-dependency, shame, guilt, low self-esteem, PTSD symptoms, addictions, depression, and fear of being social. On top of all this, I was so afraid to be seen and so desperate to stay hidden.
As despair mounted and as happiness appeared an insurmountable mountain to climb, I began desperately looking for a way out. And fast. Perhaps a shortcut? Spoiler alert: The Work did not provide a shortcut. What it did provide was it showed me that I was perfectly fine where I was, that I could start from where I was.
So I made The Work a daily practice. The biggest immediate change was simply that, in times of stress, I felt like I knew what to do. I had Inquiry to hold me. I found a safe refuge in the four questions and turnarounds. And then inquiry became my first priority. I own a tree service business, and every day at work I started to carry around a pen and a Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet close to my side, looking forward to any triggers that might come that day so I could do The Work.
Eventually, I began to know with conviction that the way out of suffering was to go in. But what’s more, I found it incredibly rewarding to go in, I enjoyed going in. I began to see that these so-called issues I had were love serving love—they were turning me inward toward my beautiful Self.
Within me, I found an incredibly empowering Self-love.
What fun and deep work this is, work that speaks to the soul. I have come to see that sitting with a thought in Inquiry is the most intimate experience there is. I have shared many good cries and many good laughs during sessions with others. Through Inquiry I have come to see that, without question, I am good and I am honest and I care deeply about myself and others. My so-called issues, the ones that I was ashamed of, have now softened to simply workable worksheets. The Work has freed me up to engage with others and life in a loving and caring and kind way. This has been a truly humbling journey for me.
The Work is dear to my heart and an ongoing practice for me. It would be my pleasure to share it with you. If you have any questions about The Work, or if you would like to work with me, please feel free to send me an email or find me on my website listed below. I am available for private sessions, classes, and retreats. I look forward to hearing from you.